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    Intentional conversations for relationships. 
    Speak what matters. Build connection, intimacy, and love.

    At Our Spoken Love, therapy is more than talking—it’s about changing how you experience each other.

    J. Kipp Lanning, LIMHP, LPC, is a sex-positive therapist and member of AASECT providing couples counseling, marriage counseling, and sex therapy in Omaha, Nebraska and via telehealth across the state. He works with individuals and couples to repair, strengthen, and reconnect in their relationships. Whether you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure how to move forward, you’re in a place where that can change.

    Common areas of focus include:

    • Libido mismatch and intimacy concerns
    • Affair and sexual betrayal recovery
    • Sexual dysfunction and sex therapy concerns
    • Conflict and communication patterns that feel unproductive or damaging
    • Relationships that have lost their sense of closeness, energy, or “aliveness”

    Kipp integrates evidence-based approaches including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to support meaningful change in couples therapy and relationship counseling. The goal isn’t just insight—it’s helping you shift patterns in real time so you can respond to each other differently.

    You can expect therapy to be active and collaborative. You’ll learn and practice skills in session, build clarity around your needs, and develop new ways of responding that create safety, trust, and connection.

    When relevant, deeper concerns such as anxiety, depression, trauma, and attachment patterns are also addressed—because what happens outside the relationship often shows up within it.

    You don’t have to keep having the same conversations or feeling the same distance. There is a way to move forward—with more clarity, connection, and intention.

    About J Kipp Lanning

    I’ve spent decades helping couples who are tired of talking in circles, avoiding what matters, or feeling like they have to walk on eggshells just to keep the peace.

    At Our Spoken Love, I don’t believe relationships improve by being more careful—they improve by being more honest, more intentional, and more willing to face what’s actually happening between you.

    Most couples I work with aren’t failing. They’re often trying very hard—just without a clear way to get to what’s underneath the conflict, distance, or frustration. That might include:

    • Communication that never quite gets to the point
    • Assumptions about relationships or sex that don’t actually fit
    • The impact of stress, trauma, or mental health
    • Or ways of protecting yourself that quietly create more distance

    My approach is direct, engaged, and active. I ask difficult questions. I slow things down when something important is happening. And I don’t let the conversation drift past what actually matters.

    The goal is to help you speak more clearly, more honestly, and with more confidence about what you need—so you’re not stuck holding things in or softening your message to the point that it never lands.

    Many couples find that once the tone shifts, they can stop over-managing each other’s reactions and just be more real. That’s often where change starts—not in perfectly worded conversations, but in honest ones that actually land.

    This work can feel uncomfortable at times. That’s part of doing something different. But it’s also how couples begin to feel more understood, more connected, and more secure with each other.

    Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all. Part of this work is helping you define what actually works for you—how you express needs, set boundaries, navigate intimacy, and stay connected over time.

    When that happens, relationships become more flexible, more resilient, and more capable of growth—not just something you manage, but something that feels alive again.

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